Worrying is a normal part of human nature. It is also a waste of tym and emotional energy. DON’T lose sleep doing ” what if ” thinking about things that aren’t going to happen for months, if at all …….borrowing trouble from the future. Relax.
Most of the things people worry about never come to pass.
“My life has been a series of catastrophes -most of which never happened” Montaigne.
Our imagination almost always creates a scenario worse than the reality. Positive thinking is a lot more than blind faith – and it’s power over people’s lives is awesome. Optimists fare better than pessimists in almost every aspect of life, often achieving more and enjoying greater social success. Optimistic people are also less susceptible to depression and physical ills. Optimism is a habitual way of explaining setbacks to yourself.
The pessimist believes bad events stem from permanent conditions and good events from temporary ones. The optimist, however, attributes failure to temporary causes and favourable situations to enduring causes. The pessimist allows a disappointment in one area of his life to pervade the rest. The optimist doesn’t let one setback contaminate his whole life. When things go wrong, pessimists blame themselves…….the optimist ascribes such trouble to a fluke or looks for a new approach.
Learnt habits can be unlearnt. Think of failure as the result of a faulty strategy, not some character flaw. People who imagine themselves succeeding outperform those who expect to fail. Take pride in your accomplishments as it builds a sense of self-worth.
A small trouble is like a pebble. Hold it too close to your eye, and it puts everything out of focus. Hold it at proper viewing distance, and it can be examined and classified. Throw it at your feet, and it can be seen in its true setting, just one more tiny bump on your pathway to success.”What if?”statements throw fuel on the fire of stress and worry. Things can go in a million different directions, and the more time you spend worrying about the possibilities, the less time you’ll spend taking action and staying productive. Asking “what if” will only take you to a place you don’t want -or need- to go.
“If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a prophet.” – Isaac Bashevis Singer